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Lockdown 2020: How our 6-year old dealt with all the indoor time!

The year that went by has been quite overwhelming for everyone across the globe! The pandemic disrupted life at all levels, quite literally! The abnormals of staying indoors all the time, working from home all the time, ‘no school’ routine at all, suddenly and without warning became the new normal! Having said that 2020 has also been a great eye-opener. A live-it-through textbook that has helped those who survived the year learn a few (and more) lessons for life!

Anxious Times

We anticipated that the months of total lockdown would be impossible to deal with. My husband and me were working from home. We were really concerned about how our 6-year old would sail through each day all by herself. Like everyone else, we missed our support system – our maid and our daughter’s nanny! 

Pleasant Surprises

They say children are super resilient and awesome adopters of change. We saw this with our daughter, NiVi, during those months of zero contact with the outside world. She was able to keep herself creatively engaged for most parts of the day. Barring some random family cuddle huddles, that we totally enjoyed and looked forward to as well!. We had made a conscious choice of moving her into a Waldorf kindergarten in 2019. The one year NiVi spent there helped to a very large extent with living through the lockdown. We tried to recreate the school-time rhythm at home. Waking up early, cooking and cleaning together, having our meals together on the floor and sleeping early too! (Read more about Rhythms in our homes, environment and life)

What Kept Us Busy

There were fixed chores at home that were shared between us. NiVi would end up helping with most of them in some way or form. She would join us in our morning exercise routine – a small way to ensure physical activity indoors. Waldorf kindergartens encourage a lot of outdoor play. This was one thing we thoroughly missed while being indoors during the lockdown. We tried to encourage as much of running and jumping around indoors to allow for physical exertion by making the home a safe space for NiVi. 

Throwback pic of a trip we made right before the lockdown

Kitchen Fun

Kitchen chores turned out to be one of her favourites including sorting, cleaning, peeling, grating and slicing fruits and vegetables. Like many others we took to gardening too during the lockdown. NiVi would help us with prepping the pots with mud, sowing the seeds, watering the plants and then waiting as eagerly as us for the shoots to pop out and grow into tiny plants. We have always been into healthy baking and the lockdown gave us more opportunities to bake our own cookies, cakes and breads. NiVi would help with the measuring and mixing, pouring and patting. Not to mention the joy of experiencing awesome aromas that fill up the air and the impatient waiting for the cookies and cakes to cool down 🙂

Peeling carrots for some yummy gajar ka halwa 🙂
Shelling peas was a favourite kitchen chore!

Open Ended Play

Waldorf kindergartens also encourage a lot of open ended play. Wooden blocks, ice-cream sticks, pieces of cloth, sea shells, stones etc are some of NiVi’s favourites. When left to her own, she would use these in the most creative ways. On some days she would be a shop seller selling her wares, on another the blocks and sticks would be used to create some patterns on the floor. At times we would find her busy with pretend play – with the blocks doubling up as cookies that would be baked in an old shoe box perhaps that takes the form of a pretend oven! Cloth would be used for dress-up games or even for draping around furniture to create mini castles or tents. (Read more on the Importance of Playing with Cloth Dolls)

Imagination let loose with some rangoli powder, a cardboard sheet and those nimble fingers!


NiVi also spent her afternoons exploring some hand work projects. She practiced sewing, weaving and finger knitting based on what she had learnt at kindergarten. The joy of creating something by herself and using it was immense. I read somewhere that introducing hand work to children in their early years helps them believe that they can be self-reliant creators themselves. This self-reliance is a gift they will cherishh right through into their adult lives. Would strongly urge all parents to provide your little ones with this early opportunity at the right time. Their tiny nimble fingers are capable of wonders beyond our imagination.

Weaving away on the loom on most afternoons

To sum it all up, our lockdown days would begin with some physical activities followed by all the household chores like cleaning and cooking and some open-ended play. Some hand work after a wholesome family lunch was part of our everyday routine too. Fruits for evening snack, some story time and a light dinner would mark the end of the day for NiVi. We would have a couple of hours to catch up on some reading, pending work or even watch some Netflix :).

All Geared and Hopeful

Like everyone else we are eagerly waiting to brush aside and leave behind the pandemic and its impact on our lives. That said we will be ever so grateful for all that we learnt during the last year. We hope our little experiences above help spark some ideas in your minds. Do share what worked for you in the comments below, for us to learn from.

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Waldorf children are Healthy children

Why waldorf children are Healthier?

*We encourage children to play in Nature, all around the year- soil, water, wind,climb trees and breathe fresh air.

*We provide organic-homecooked-locally grown/ sourced food. Children eat a good amount of Freshly cut fruits everyday.

children participating in cooking work

*Parents take children for Nature walks, park, farms instead of Malls and plastic playgrounds.

*Children are encouraged to play on their own with anything available in the environment, this way they do not depend on anyone to engage them. This also doesn’t make the child dependent on watching screens to entertain/engage them. That results in ZERO screen time and more physical play.

18 months old playing with coconut shells and Areca nuts

*More physical play helps in better metabolism, children’s appetite increases and they eat well.

*We believe falling ill is a natural way of fighting antibodies, we let fevers and colds run its course and use natural ways to heal them unless severe.

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Choose waldorf wisely, Its Life changing 🙂

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Homeschooling, Waldorf way

Welcome to the World of Waldorf! Through this article and subsequent pieces, I will attempt to explain the Waldorf philosophy and what it stands for. Waldorf was started by Dr Rudolf Steiner (1861-1925). After the First World War in Germany, Steiner initiated a school for children of people working at Waldorf Astoria cigarette factory, thus the name Waldorf. He gave his first lectures there to the teachers of the first Waldorf school and it was documented into a book called “Practical Advice to Teachers.”

The focus in Waldorf methodology is on the development of the whole human being which consists of Body, Mind and Soul, also known as Willing-Feeling-Thinking.

Waldorf begins at home with a simple lifestyle and day-to day-routines.
There are no academic goals to be achieved until your child is 6-7 years old. Yes, you heard it, No activities, no worksheets!

What does the Waldorf philosophy say?

According to Dr. Rudolf Steiner, human development can be classified into 7-year cycles – 0-7, 7-14, 14-21 and so on. One of the basic concepts of Waldorf Education is the threefold human being – Willing, Feeling and Thinking. For the first 7 years, we focus only on the ‘will’ of the child. Will is in the Body, Feelings in the Soul and Thinking in The Spirit or Mind or Ego (not the negative ego, here it means the higher self).

As we focus only on the Will of the child it means we work only on the development of the child’s body, not touch the feeling and thinking aspects yet, as those are yet to be developed in the later stages of the child’s life. In the early years, Eat-Play-Sleep-Repeat is the only mantra.

What does the Waldorf philosophy recommend in the first cycle?

So what is needed to foster the healthy development of the child’s body? Rhythm, Sleep, Nutrition, Movement, and Warmth- these are the FIVE golden keys of parenting, as suggested by Helle Heckmann who has been running an early child care center in Denmark for the last 30 years.
Let us look at these 5 things which are all a child requires until the age 7:


What is rhythm? Why do we need rhythm? How can we build a rhythm?

  • We find rhythms in nature – daily, weekly, monthly and yearly
  • Setting up a Rhythm is essential in daily life- it establishes security in children- life must be predictable rather than full of surprises for children. Repeating your daily routines at the same of the day is known as a day rhythm.

Examples to include in your daily rhythm Wake up, Bath time, Meal time, Indoor Play with Open-Ended Playthings, Washing vessels, Cleaning the house, Putting things away, Peeling fruits, Eating them, Gardening and so on.

  • Modern life causes hindrance to build rhythms- automatic washers, dryers- we can stock up loads of clothes and wash any time, without regard to weekly rhythms. Children no longer see the tasks of daily life in a process.
  • Irregularities in rhythms create illness.
  • Rhythms are a gift from nature. We will talk about monthly and yearly rhythms in a different blog.


Modern day throws up the challenge of not enough sleep, a worldwide issue.

  • Set up a regular sleep time-children begin to feel drowsy, saying a prayer, story, lighting candle-switch off lights and gadgets.
  • Every child needs 12 hrs of continuous sleep to rejuvenate- children’s rhythm should be such that they should wake up on their own and don’t need an external alarm.
  • A lot of physical and mental development happens during sleep.
  • Sufficient physical movement helps children fall asleep.


What is the right nutrition??

  • We eat to live! Lack of proper fuel can cause hyperactivity, poor mental ability, obesity, malnutrition & so on.
  • Food habits are determined by yearly seasonal cycles & how climate influences crops. We must eat what is grown locally (where we live) at that time of the year. Nature provides what is needed for us from the natural vegetation in any given place.
  • Include wholesome ingredients for breakfast, lunch & dinner. Reduce spices, salts & sugar. Avoid refined, processed, fried food.
  • Make it a habit to eat together vs eating in front of a TV.

Movement/ Play

What are the games you played as a child? Today’s children sit far too much!

  • Movement and Speech development are so interrelated- Movement in early years lays the foundation for walking, speaking, thinking
  • Free movement: WALKING- cross coordination helps build a connection between the left & right brain/ cerebral hemispheres. Running, climbing trees, falling are very important.
  • Indoor play should allow children to explore and play with natural open-ended playthings like wooden blocks, pebbles, peg dolls, pods from the tree, cotton fabrics and so on. We will talk about the finer motor skill development in a later blog.

Warmth/ Love/ Care

  • Essential clothing- comfortable for child to move about freely, loose fitting-not tight, Child should be able to become dirty without thinking about fashion accessories. Avoid poor quality clothes, invest in good cotton clothes. Cotton is child friendly and appropriate for our climate. You should be worried if you get a clean child home, end of day.
  • Hat during sunny days and proper footwear!
  • Children play best when they don’t worry about their bodies.
  • Play helps in healthy development of inner organs, social skills, creativity and imagination.

Waldorf parenting or slow parenting for me, is a lifestyle! If you were born in the 80’s or before, go back to your childhood and recollect your earliest memories. All you did was eat-play-sleep-repeat, compared to a child today, who is bombarded with an overload of information through books, activities, some 100 toy options, packaged food, screen time, worksheets, tests in the early years. Today’s children sit more than move around to play. If you ask a speech therapist, he would also say speech is related to movement and today’s children don’t move as much as we did!

Homeschooling is an overhyped term in recent times, thanks to social media! Not sending a 2 year to school is now called homeschooling. Homeschooling is not bringing school work to home. I would say be a mother, slow down, be with your child, give time, give warmth, cook fresh food, eat at the right time and play with your child. Your child needs you, not a teacher! Early childhood happens only once, it is precious!

Originally written by Divya B A for Babychakra: the-world-of-waldorf-homeschooling


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The Gift of Festivals

The greatness of a culture can be found in its festivals.

In almost every part of the globe we know of, people definitely celebrate festivals round the year. If we take a closer look and spend a little time to indulge, these joyous festivals come with certain messages, messages about the change in seasons, variations in our planet, its connection to the Sun, The Moon and the other planets. These natural phenomena can be best termed and/or compared to a wonderful Rhythm.

Changes in weather, change of seasons or changing positions of the planets; marks as popular religious festivals regardless of the geographical or ethnic boundaries. A time when families and friends come together and celebrate in accordance to their rituals. While there are faith-based festivals celebrating the spiritual aspects, there are also festivals to commemorate a person or an event from the past. In our homes, we tend to find meaningful ways to honor such cosmic changes.

Celebrating these special rhythmically recurrent occasions with our children is essential and also very special for many reasons. Food, laughter, loved people, holidays for schools, colleges and workplaces are truly overwhelming for anyone. It is also important for the children to understand the essence of any celebration. It is extremely nurturing for them to know how and when seasons change, sow-reap cycles in their region and so on. Festivals are a medium we embrace to break the insulation we have built around us and develop more love and reverence towards ourselves, others and Mother nature.

Celebrations with children

When it comes to children, they need a little more time to embrace family traditions and rituals. Annual festivals carry aide to the overall development of a child. Walk in the nature to see the beauty of nature and how it changes every season is one of the few things parents/ adults can do along with the children. Little ones love to collect to tiny rocks, dried leaves and twigs. It is beautiful to see all the amazing things they can create using their collections. These little things from the nature and our celebrations are intertwined in a very special way.

Make up songs and sing them to your children, to gather those wandering minds. Simple words, small lines penetrate the children the most. For example: A song on all the colors expressing Spring can also make a song on Holi with a few words tweaked, song on a tiny little worm in its cocoon for a long long time finally breaking out into a beautiful and colorful butterfly and so on… This is a very subtle way to express gratitude towards everything and everyone around.

Storytelling is an art which most parents feel handy during a crisis situation. We all have grown up listening to stories from our parents on a wide variety of topics. Children would love to hear the history behind celebrating a festival. Minimal lines, lesser jargon, classic language are your key requirements while framing a story to narrate to them. Stories flaunting courage, virtue over vice, hope over despair when narrated to your little ones will go a long way. has some lovely books to start with.

There is one thing that children love to do and that’s to IMITATE. Right from the time they begin to look around in their environment. If there is someone cooking in the kitchen, they are there – pulling our entire kitchen out. If, there is someone folding clothes – one can find them woven in the pile of clothes reminding you of the game Chinese knot maybe… As they grow, it becomes our duty to transform such play into meaningful activitiesInvolving them in any festive preparation is helpful for both you and your child. It is one great way to make the child feel that he is an important part of the family and that he is needed at crucial times – builds a sense of belonging within the child. It’s unfair to be ambitious – they need to feel accomplished and at the same time being able to do that duty.

Repetitiveness is the key. Start a week or two before a festival begins and give it a nice closure. Year after year, these family traditions that we follow with our children will grow in them thus capturing the essence of such a celebration. Most of the festivals remind us about all the good qualities embedded in us – a quality of love, care, devotion, endurance, wisdom. This is the time we look within ourselves and allow these innate qualities to shine.

One thing that strikes me the most when it comes to celebrating festivals is that; irrespective of the region we live in or the religion we follow, the core values of such celebrations remain the same. There is a sense of ‘oneness’ that echoes across all boundaries and such enriching experiences are worth instilling in a young one’s mind. This for me; is an act of restoration of faith and trust in humanity.

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Our Parenthood Journey…

2 yrs ago, I was in the hospital waiting for Sinchana to be born.. We waited for 41 weeks, yet she did not choose to come out and we had to force her! I knew then, that in life, she will always be pushed to do things she not ready for! They say each pregnancy is different and each child is different, yet people expect everyone to behave in a normal way! Everyone think it is funny to advice young couples to plan for kids, in reality no one prepares you for what actually happens when you are pregnant and when the child is born, all you see is a glossy image.. You are made to believe that everyone goes through this and it is acceptable and normal! I did not have it easy, nor did my husband.. It was a very emotional bumpy journey for both of us.
Our education system and society focuses on all the useless things except educating us on raising children in a developmentally appreciate way. We had ‘aunties’ advising us on which oil we should use for massaging the baby, what I should eat, how I must remove drishti(bad eye) each time I admire my own child, how my child should sleep and so on. But no one cares if the mother was happy, empowered and content within. I believe our ancestors knew the art of raising children and we have a lot to learn from them, but sorry, the knowledge is now a mere orthodox belief and is forced on us with a fear.
The first year after Sinchana was born was the toughest year in my life! We chose an alternative route to raise our child and we had an objection from every person around us, we only survived because of Abhay’s positive beliefs that we are doing the right thing. Second year was more comfortable, as I experimented all the theory I learnt when I was working in waldorf kindergarten, it gave a good parents perspective and we really enjoyed the independence of raising Sinchana without much interference from the society. Abhay and I are always willing to learn and change to give a better life for Sinchana. We discuss, we laugh, we argue, we disagree and agree… There is great need for both parents to be on same page while raising a child. I am very proud of Abhay, he does everything a father should do and doesn’t believe that some work are to be done by mothers/women only. He also gives me examples of how his mother managed to be strong and raised her children as a single parent.
Tomorrow(9th march) Sinchana turns 2, the actual adventure begins Now as she steps into toddlerhood, ‘terrible twos’ as some people call it.. But we are willing to learn more and do the best in the coming year. End of the day, a child learns by watching, both parents need to set an example which is worthy of imitation.

Thanks to all the people who supported us in our journey and listened to our thoughts(lecture) over the last few years 🙂

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Importance of playing with Wooden Blocks

People have been asking about How To Use Wooden blocks. This is useful information I found.

Building with blocks provides one of the most valuable learning experiences available for young children. Block play stimulates learning in all domains of development, intellectual, physical, and social-emotional and language. The current research shows that block play is fundamental for later cognitive success for learning math and numbers. In a research study, “Block Play Performance among Preschoolers as a Predictor of Later School Achievement in Mathematics”, published in the Journal of Research in Early Childhood Education, the researchers proved that children who play with blocks when they are 3, 4 and 5 years of age will do better in math, especially Algebra in middle school.

There is a natural progression of block play and introducing infants and toddlers to block play is invaluable.

TODDLERS- When toddlers are first introduced to blocks they may learn how to hold on to them, how they feel, how heavy they are and begin to carry them around. They will experiment with how blocks may sound when they fall, or when they bang them together. Soon toddlers are learning cause and effect as they are filling and dumping, stacking, knocking down, and laying blocks side by side on the floor. Concepts such as learning sizes, comparing objects by making exact matches and the order of objects are also being learned. Socially, block play contributes to their developing self-confidence, for example as they learn how to stack blocks they are proud of their success and feel a sense of accomplishment. Through block play, a young child’s expressive and receptive language is being expanded by learning words such as “fill,” “dump,” “pick up,” “stack,” “balance,” “tall”, and “short.”

3 YEAR OLD- Three-year-olds block play will look different as they move into a simple constructive type of play. A three-year-old usually plays alone or near other children and are beginning to engage in pretend play. They are starting to build enclosures that resemble zoos, farm pens, roads, and castles. They are learning concepts such as sorting, ordering, counting, one to one correspondence, size and shape.

4 and 5-YEAR-OLDS- At four and five children’s block play is more experienced, developed, balanced coordinated, and organized. Constructive play involves play that is more open-ended and exploratory. Children begin to combine structures to make more complex buildings. Socially, four and five-year-olds are beginning to share ideas and are starting to cooperate and build with others. They may use block accessories such as people, transportation vehicles, and animals to engage in imaginary/ pretend play. They are learning more complex patterns, classifying, sequencing, counting, fractions, and problem-solving. According to article “Constructive Play” written by Walter Frew, “Block play shows the opportunity for conceptual understanding in the area of structural engineering as children explore forces of gravity, compression, tension and the relationship between materials and successful design to achieve balance, stability, and even aesthetic sensibility.”

Preschoolers are beginning to notice and explore more 3– dimensional objects such as cones, cylinders, cubes, and prisms, (geometry). Science is also being learned through block play as children start making predictions, comparisons, experiment with cause and effect, stability, and balance. Their vocabulary is also expanded by block play as they develop an understanding of spatial relations and words such as “under,” “over,” “off,” “bottom,” “top,” “through,” and “beside.”

What type of environment and materials are needed to encourage block play?

Toddler Environment- Block play should be set up in an area that is free from other distractions and out of traffic. The type of blocks needed in meet the Environment Rating Scale for Infants and Toddlers – Revised Edition, should be non-interlocking and at least 2 inches by 2 inches. The ITERS-R tool suggests at least three sets of different types of blocks. Each set should contain at least 10 blocks to allow the children enough to properly explore. Accessories such as people, animals and transportation vehicles should also be available to expand play.

Wooden blocks from our store: 25 pieces Wooden Blocks, 63 pieces Wooden Blocks, Teak wood Blocks, Wooden Cubes

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Rhythms- in our homes, environment and life

If there is one aspect that Waldorf based schools and homeschoolers specifically think and spend their time planning is RHYTHM. Rhythm for the day, week, month, year. It is beautiful to see how a well connected a day, month or year can be when craved rhythmically. Rhythm works on different levels for all of us. A child feels more secure when he knows what is coming next, while there is more discipline in the life of a homemaker. As a matter of fact, many families with both parents working might find setting a rhythm unrealistic or something that cannot be achieved. I’d like to look at it this way – Will our children connect to “Oh! It’s Monday morning, don’t forget, I have meetings all day” OR “Okay munchkin, your snack will be ready soon as you are back from school”?

Songs are a very fulfilling way to transition between activities. Make up a little song to wash hands before they come together for a meal … “this is the way we wash our hands..this is the way we scrub our hands…”

If one looks around to observe, one can see that rhythm is everywhere. From the sunrise to sunset, change in seasons, change in crops, our migrating friends to our breath, things we do during the day, night, a visit to your hometown each summer, festivals, the list never ends. The time is just right to mention an article penned by Nirupama Rao; I followed the liver rhythm she talks about for some time and I can vouch for it. There were so many things I could accomplish, higher energy levels and felt so good.

“We learn through all our experiences and they enrich our store of knowledge. But in order that man may learn on the Earth, he must be allured by, [or] involved in enjoyment.” — Rudolf Steiner

Why is there a need to set a Rhythm?

Rhythm and predictability go hand in hand. They are like two sisters. Children feel secure when they know what’s coming next. A healthy rhythm weaves each moment to a day and each day to a week, month, year.. and years go by, you will notice how strong you are growing as a family and how safe your children feel to spread their wings and fly about once they are all grown up. It takes many strong stitches to make a piece of cloth wearable. However busy or scheduled your life is, it is never too late nor it is very difficult to set a loving rhythm in your house. Did I miss mentioning a healthy rhythm strengthens your authority as a parent (of course a more gentle and understanding one)? You will also find your teen more cooperative thanks to all the channels of discipline it has carved over the years. Discipline that is more innate and natural.

Tackling counterwill of a child gets easier when we relax on our commanding tone and draw the children inwards with transitional songs or verses. It’s best to leave the child in his dreamy state rather than awakening him with unnecessary instructions.

Rhythm of the year for an example

Establishing a healthy and meaningful Rhythm

For those who are starting new towards setting up a rhythm in your home, consider taking baby steps instead of I’ll change everything in a day mode. These few pointers may help you kick-start. But they are really only cues. How each one of you take it forward or have been following it is something I’ll be curious to know.

Recognize the anchor points of a day in your home. For homes with younger children, it is probably the mealtimes and naptimes and for the older children, probably a few more additions like activities – artistic/ help with your household chore of the day. If these activities are set, allow the rest of the time to blend into your day and weave it in a ‘breathe in – breathe out‘ manner. You come together for a meal time and then the little one goes to some playtime, you come together again for another meal, maybe and off to your bed for a little nap. Over a period of time, the child will begin to know that after lunch, it is time to close his eyes and rest or he will even go to the sink to wash his hands and help you ready the dinner table when it is time. Of course, we do not have to be stringent with the time. “Come what may, we will sit down to eat at 6PM” is not pleasing at all. “We sit down to eat around 6” is a more consistent way towards establishing a healthy rhythm.


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“One of the tasks of the growing child and one of the functions of parenting is to bring the child into rhythm.” – Rahima Baldwin

It is important to tune your inner self towards being flexible. With the little ones, every day is a brand new day. They are so light hearted, bouncy and carefree that we need to think ahead of every situation to stay calm and continue the day in a disruptive manner. That way, you know how to turn the tide when an ugly situation arises. Sounds weird, but is completely sensible to know yourself well to understand your limitations. If you know how flexible you are and what your limitations are, isn’t it easier to plan a rhythm that is sustainable?

Repetition is the key. Develop a suitable pattern for the day and repeat the same pattern each day. Slowly, you will see how well your family traditions can also be instilled in your child. Keep in mind, activity that requires the child to concentrate- ‘be there’. There is no way your child is going to finish that piece of artwork or homework if the adult around is sitting with a phone/ planning a grocery run. His time to exhale or during breathe-out activity is the best time for you to finish up chores need not involve him. Such a pattern when practised every day, helps the child predict what comes next and reassures your child that you are there for your child when there the need arises instead of looking out for you each moment of the day.

Create. Sing. Meditate. Hug. Rever.

A good rhythm should leave you stress free end of day and makes sense for it to fit into your family naturally. Whether changes are big, or small; you surely are right person to know what best works for you and your family. Sometimes, the change you need to bring in can be drastic for your child definitely worth embracing in the long run. Create rituals, establish a suitable rhythm for repetitive activities and foster reverence.



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The Love language our children receive

I believe every family has its own ways and means to handle children. Parenting strategies on psychological level can be broadly classified on the basis of authority. Some parents lay rules in every aspect to gain control over the life of their child. Some parents expect little to nothing from their children and just let them be. Some parents strike a balance between rules, authority and freedom. Nonetheless, it all comes down to how the child is benefiting in the long term. While traveling the path of parenting, at some point, you are bound to quiz yourself – How connected is our family?, How joyful is the bonding with our children?, How far do we exercise freedom of expression? Clearly; connection or bonding between a parent and a child is ever-changing. A warm hug might go a long way for a little one. While; for an older child; the parent will have to connect in more than one way. Irrespective of the age factor, the idea of finding that connection with your child and nourishing it all the way is a learning experience for every family.


There are plenty of ways to reach to your child, to build a connection; a bond based on unconditional love. Goes without saying, our human race is very well equipped to give or to receive love. But our lives have gotten so busy and mundane that we constantly need someone to remind us that we have some really special tools of parenting within us already.

Image result for quality time with childrenTime out VS Quality time

Your toddler tries to test your limits almost every day and drives you up the wall in a snap of your fingers. While it’s their way to communicate, the responsibility is on us to assure the child that he is in safe hands. So the next time you think of a time-out, dark room, Jack the monster n blah blah blah…, try matching these tricks with quality time. Perhaps, the little one only wanted you to take a break, slow down and fix him a good meal. Perhaps, he was too sleepy. Perhaps, all he wanted was your undivided attention. Instead of nailing him down, try uplift him when his emotions are at its peak.                                                                                         Our heartfelt commitment of time is what they need.

Hugs and kisses and more

Right from their birth, there are many situations each single day to communicate with your child in this language called ‘touch’. Gentle massages, cuddles and kisses, dressing them up, walking a child who has just taken his first few steps, greeting the child with a hug after a hard day, tossing a child in the air to have him in your arms eventually, having your child on your lap while reading to him, introducing more natural toys are some of those many ways to fill up their love tanks and to imbibe healthy emotions.                                                                                                                       No words, and yet, the loudest voice of physical touch.


Affirmative expressions

Image result for affirmative expressions towards childrenPositive loving guidance goes a long way with children. Often, our anger over-shadows this language of love, although we do not intend to do any damage. The words spoken are so potent, we often do not see the thin line between usual words of praises and words of endearment. I know how knee-jerking it is when your little one has done something which is appreciable for you in your mind. Tossing off a “Good job” to a child who’s put on his shoes all by himself – well, in all honesty, he has done this to please you and an affirmative like that means that you are forcing him to feel good about it. The “I did it” feeling is replaced with “Do you like it that I wore my shoes all by myself?” Likewise, “Very bad, you aren’t sharing…” for a two-year-old for not sharing a toy is definitely unsuitable. It is unfair to manipulate the child and tell him how to feel rather than allowing the child to experience and create his own memory. One should make a very conscious effort to think before speaking to children for we are responsible to lay a strong foundation for them.                                                                   Try make statements that are non-judgmental to restore their enthusiasm. Your wholesome presence without saying a word is much more rewarding.


Who wouldn’t mind a surprise gift right? Ironically, the idea of gifts has changed leaps and bounds thanks to the booming industry. Gifts are measured in terms of numbers and monies rather than quality or even that being an act of love. This powerful way of expressing love is misunderstood by many. Showing appreciation to children need not necessarily mean you go to a store with your child and buy him anything he wants. Children need our unconditional love and we often manage to dilute it by catering to unrealistic demands and ‘bribe-driven jobs’.                                                                                                                                           A gift for the child can be anywhere from a garden flower to his favorite dessert you’ve cooked, from a small picture you’ve created on a sheet of paper to a visit to a place where he finds joy.

A helping hand

This language of love mostly goes unnoticed. Seldom do we realize our children are assimilating everything we say or do. Simplest of all examples – how we treat our domestic help? Okay, you pay a ransom to have them home for an hour or two every day. If the adult fails to express gratitude towards the domestic help; an unfair emotion is triggered in the child’s mind who is watching you constantly. Helping/ acts of serving are physically and emotionally demanding for everyone. But we can all agree that it is one of the best platforms for children to receive positive vibrations from the adults around.                                                                                                               Simple acts of kindness like caring for your neighbor’s garden while they are away, volunteering as a family in your community or even mending their damaged toys are communicates deeply.

Consistently working on creating a layer of love and affection enveloping your family like a sheath makes the home a better place to live in for all. Ultimately, such efforts need to insulate the child through all the good and hard times when they enter the adult world. This topic definitely leads us to boundaries for our children. Boundaries for the toddler who insists on wanting that doll your little girl saw at the local store or boundaries for the teen who is experimenting her boundaries as well as yours. Perhaps, in the future posts…


Pavithra Suresh



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Dealing with a three-five year old

For all those who have been wondering, “What is going on in that tiny head?”; some fresh breath here. I don’t want to say 0-3years of your child was all easy peasy, no way! But 3-5 year olds are really something. All the sweetness, cuteness is now turning out to look different. No more is your child only imitating, for they, have also started to try things they have learnt all this while. Hitting, biting, yelling is now the basis of play with their mates.

It is for us to understand that in terms of development of a child, reactions and emotions seen are mere manifestations of how the child is feeling inwards. For example, a child who is being really rigid about something and is on the demanding side just to get you on your nerves only needs to feel secure. Adverse reactions like punishments or ignoring him for his so called ‘bad behaviour’ creates different explosions in the mind of the child.

 A typical day

Remember; you give your child everything, the child will ask for everything and more. Contrary to that, you give your child little to nothing, the child learns to make the best out of it and ‘searches’ for more. A screen-less day with some rest and lots of self-guided play is more than enough for them. They do not need academic programs as yet. Should you ‘need’ to send the child to a daycare, choose a place which provides them with ample space and time to play at all times of the year. Children gain more by playing outside at this age.

Magic in songs and movement

Tantrums are a way children want to communicate when they do not like something they are asked to see, say or do. Indeed! We end up overworked almost every day. When a child makes the most of that very moment you want to park yourself on a couch to rest your back or close your eyes, a tantrum coming your way is the last thing you expect. The need to fume or ignore is a common reaction as a parent/caretaker. While I don’t see anything wrong in getting angry; dealing with your anger first, calming down and then responding to your child is half battle. For all you know, the common response of shouting at the child or making a scary face and looking right into his eyes might just result in more mockery. Singing to your child during such times is rewarding. So is humming. These game changer tactics comforts the child and facilitates in evolving a sense of protection. He needs to feel safe to show such emotions with shades of gray. Remember, he is only imitating all that he has seen in those previous years.

Once upon a time…

With books or with puppets. With hand gestures or a musical. Now is the perfect time to start with stories (if you still haven’t) which takes them to an imaginary world where all the characters come alive. Simple nature tales, stories your parents told you when you were young, fairy tales, folk tales, etc… picking up a story is that simple. My 4-year-old is all ears when I start saying, “When I was a little girl, my mother used to tell me about a giant tree near her house…” and so on. I’d repeat the words and stories the same way my mother did for me. Books are a great medium too, if chosen according to the needs of your child. There is more to storytelling and here is where you want to read. Bear in mind; stories that are small with simpler words yet classic language has more benefits to look out for compared to the long and over-informative.

While many children want to run around, climb on everything they can or stay out in the sun as much as they can, you may also see children who want to sit down and do something quieter. Bring out safer, blunt knives, crinkle cutters from your kitchen, have them help you with chopping. Keep some blank papers handy for them to color or let them help you prep for the next day/festival/family event, so on… Yes! there are many such ways to keep such children interested too. Be creative.

All said and done, some of you readers have different views(Respect!) on parenting. There is no right or wrong. Feel free to take what resonates with you. Regardless of our ways and means, they all want the same – ‘your warm physical presence when in need’.



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Importance of Playing with Cloth Dolls

“Children often express emotions and thoughts while playing with dolls that they might not be able to convey using words,” says Allan Gonsher, a play therapist in Overland Park, Kansas.

I always do my best to source alternative things children can play with compared to the ones available in market. My aim is to reach out parents who are conscious about what they want to give their child, be it food, toys, books, education, gadgets and so on. In my journey of running My Little Bookshop, I have succeeded to meet so many like minded parents and I have learnt a lot from them too. One such person is Sudha Chakravarty, who is homeschooling her two lovely children in Mumbai. Sudha is a strong individual and follows her heart. I personally felt she was the right person to share her experience of giving cloth dolls to her children and she happily shared her views with My Little Bookshop on request. This is what she has to say

I am a mother of 2 kids aged 8 yr and 4 yrs .I have consciously given gender neutral toys to them and never excess, I constantly declutter. The thing that struck me someday was there was way too much plastic in their toys,when most things in the house are either recycled, upcyled.. why am I creating junk through these??? while these thoughts were in my mind I was gradually meandering towards homeschooling my kids… what should I teach the questions clouding my mind. In one such search I came across Waldorf or Steiner philosophy. It blew my mind off I started meeting online such families throughout the globe and bingo came my answer NATURAL toys.They believe kids from a very young age should be given natural toys preferably unfinished ones and it can be anything….

Both the kids have been introduced to dolls very early and some were plastic ones (my daughter never hankered for a Barbie). I saw in one such experimental session the kids took away each part of the doll and didn’t really feel bad that the doll is destroyed… their demand was they wanted 1 more!! But I noticed one thing they never did any such thing with their cloth dolls.. my question was why such discrimination and after a chat with my son I discovered the following…
  1. The cloth dolls are soft to touch just like human body
  2. When they sleep with them they don’t feel the hardness of plastic
  3. Our cloth dolls are big they wear their their infant size clothes ,they love dressing them up with convenience…(it’s ok the hand gets twisted or neck gets twisted..atleast they will not break)
  4. They have named them and no one treats a friend like that ..specially a friend who sits near their head at night when the room is dark.
  5. They can be easily carried here and there in bags.
  6. We have quite a few dressed in woolens …they feel its warmth in the cold seasons.
  7. The couple of plastic  dolls they have all scribbling on their face… when I asked why you don’t scribble on the cloth dolls … the answer was simple people don’t scribble on their friends face …
The feeling of love and most importantly feeling of ownership and respect is what develops through this warmies ..another name for cloth dolls in our home. Parents here play a very important role after they choose the cloth doll they have chosen they should too respect it, we never put them in the drawer it’s always on their bed ..the dolls are refered always by their name, never thrown always gently handed over and they are very few in number, hence always get carried on vacations!!! they are clothes so easily maintained hand or machine washable !!! we now do not own a single plastic doll now but just 4 cloth dolls…they are treated in great respect and love. I would tell every parent to give a slight thought on all natural toys they go a long way teaching valuable lessons.
I hope Sudha’s experience will give a new perspective in your parenting journey. Thanks for taking time to read 🙂
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